i found the only way around a problem is to make space for solutions. so today, i made a new rule for myself - if you can list it, you can solve it. i realised most of the time a problem isn’t really a problem, its just insecurities that we have about us, people around us and sometimes circumstances. i will focus on what matters now and leave the rest to sort itself out over time. like relationships. you can’t force a solution. you can however stop complaining and act or shut up.